So here is a quick version of all that went on.  Many people know that Vi had ear tubes placed in April when we got our G-tube.  Well in September we started having problems with them and at the end of the month we took them out.  From that point forward we were on antibiotics for 10 days / off for 2 weeks so on and so forth because she continued to get more ear infections.  So we went back to Dr Stone to see what her thoughts were about getting tubes put back in.  She was on board. So yesterday we underwent another procedure to get new tubes.  What they were projecting to be a 30-45 minute OR took all of 20 minutes. Praise the Lord!  Vi was not under for long at all.  She got to the OR started looking around, went to sleep nicely and before I knew it she was back in my arms. 

One thing I do love about St. Joseph’s hospital is that they have a program and they have “Child Life Specialist”  it’s someone who can let the children know what is going to happen to them on their terms but for us Violet doesn’t really need that. But the wonderful thing is we have been able to have the same CLS each time we have been there.  Heather has been there with Violet through some rough times and I was so glad to know that while I couldn’t be with Vi, Heather was.

Vi is doing amazing post operatively. I am pretty sure she was dealing with some nausea yesterday so I got some ginger oil and put that on her feet and she seems to be doing better now.

What is ginger oil you ask?  Oh don’t worry, that’s another entry I need to get done this weekend.  I have found an amazing product that has really helped not only Violet is SO many ways but the rest of the family as well….stay tuned!

This entry was posted on January 25, 2014. 1 Comment

Year End Review


Wow! 2013 has been quite a year for us.  Violet has been relatively healthy compared to 2012.  We have had a couple of small procedures and hospitalizations but nothing too scary or out of “our norm”

We had so much fun with our  family, friends and community as we were blessed to have been shown the love and support of so many people with the 2 benefits held for Violet.

We were blessed to have finally found a house that will work for Violet’s needs and give us the space we need for equipment. I joked with our realtor so many times about whether or not we were actually going to find a house.  (we had been house hunting for what truly felt like an eternity).

2013 Also left us with some sadness.  We lost several of our favorite caregivers at daycare and while they still remain close friends they are moved away or busy with their new jobs and we miss them dearly.  Some graduated and moved on and others came back after summer vacation but things are just….different.  We have grown to love so many of our caregivers and it’s hard to have them part and move on and have to learn new people and get people to really understand us and Violet’s needs.

Violet got her feeding tube which allowed for major development and growth which gave us the need for her kid cart (its like a wheelchair / stroller combo) which gives her the ability to be mobile and gives my back a chance to not break from carrying her around. However the kid cart does not fit well in either vehicle we owned so at the end of November we purchased a mini van!  That’s right, we are now mini van parents! 

I have started to use Essential Oils to try to combat some of Violet’s needs, which includes sleeping.  She has started to sleep 5-6 hours on a good night which is an amazingly better average than our normal 4.  Some days I actually feel like a human again! 

So is there anything planned for 2014?  Well at the end of January Violet will go in to get her ear tubes replaced as she had them removed at the end of September because they had moved and were plugged and she has already suffered several ear infections since (although, there is an oil to help that we will still proceed).  We would like to take the girls on a little weekend away for something fun.  Something Grace would really enjoy.  Of course we will travel to see family and have the Golf Benefit in Beloit! 

What are my hopes for 2014?  I hope that we can stay focused on our Creator and what He has given us, stay true to who we are, (of course health…how could I not hope for a healthy year?)  hope that people would understand me better and realize that if I try to give them suggestions on how to take care of Violet or what we need to do to keep her development growing that it is not taken poorly but instead out of love.  Honestly I hope to lose some of this weight I have gained since having Violet.  (it seems silly I know, but the weight came off and stayed off with Grace but there has been no time and too much stress since Vi has been born and I can not lose it!)  I hope that I have more time to spend and reflect in The Word of God.

I hope that for all those around us, family, friends, acquaintances, that you would be happy and healthy as well. 

Recently on one of our dear sweet caregivers Facebook pages she posted a verse that is a reminder for all of us, it’s from Romans 8:28, it says “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

Here’s to 2014


one more….the love these girls have for each other is amazing! Violet have been blessed with an older sister who has so much love and adoration for her baby sister.  I can not wait to watch and enjoy Grace growing up.




We have so much to be thankful for this year. Although we have had hiccups along the way with illnesses in 2013 we have made it to the end of November without any (dare I say it) major medical issues like last year! A couple of hospital stays here or there, some infections and a few surgical procedures but nothing as scary as what 2012 brought.

We have made so many new friends and have spread the word about rare chromosome disorders. We have been blessed by complete strangers, who we will truly never be able to show our thankfulness to. Violet is gaining weight and growing like crazy! Even if the charts & numbers dont really show it her clothes do!

We have been able to get some amzing equipment for her mobility and accessibility and will be fighting to get more.

I’m so thankful for today’s technology really. Without the advancement in health care I have to wonder where Violet would be…in an institution? Starving? Thinking back to a day where they didn’t have NG tubes or G tubes a child like Violet might not have made it if she didn’t eat. My life would be so empty without her. Although the late nights / sleepless nights are certainly getting old her precious little face makes my heart melt. When she looks at me with those eyes or when she is in a silly mood and enjoys being tickeled that smile & those eyes will get me every time! Or those sweet lips & peaceful look while she is sleeping. Those are the moments every parent enjoys & for that I am thankful. Even through the difficult days, I would never give up my life. This is the life I was given and for that I am thankful, 2 beautiful children, a wonderful, devoted husband, great healthcare providers, understanding friends & coworkers. It’s the people who stick by us through thick and thin and don’t judge us for what we have accomplished or haven’t done that I am most thankful for. In my books in the last almost 23 months we have accomplished a major lifestyle change! No one ever expects to have a child with special needs and we took this lifestyle and embraced it, everyday. How do we do it? Just like you…one day at a time!

Today we are thankful for a God who loves bigger than we can ever imagine, for all the people who have been there and supported us through so many trials, good times, bad times, our family for putting together the golf benefits to support Violet, the wonderful team of ladies and the community who supported her this summer. So many times we have said that Thank you is never enough…it always feels like it isn’t, but know we are thankful for you…for taking the time to read…care…pray…love…support our family…our sweet Violet.

If you haven’t ever gotten the chance to meet her I hope someday you do…she will bring a smile to your face and a memory you will always have…Thank you

much needed update

I have been away for quite a while. What’s new with Violet? So much, yet nothing at all. I have been deep in my thoughts but haven’t felt like sharing either. I write so many blogs really…in my head. They never make it to the keyboard.
I’m so grateful for all who care about our dear sweet Violet but I will be the first to admit, sometimes I just want to live my life….but tonight I am in a very content mood to share.
So Violet has FINALLY received her kid kart. (That’s her big news) For those who are unfamiliar with what a kid cart is, it’s a specialize stroller if you will. It’s sort of a cross between a stroller and a wheelchair. It has accessories for both. We will be able to feed her with her pump anywhere as we have a iv pole attachment and it has a canopy for when we walk and the sun is out. It tilts into different positions, it has a tray she can use to play with toys. It’s REALLY exciting. I will now become a minivan mama tomorrow. If you would have seen me trying to shove the base for the kid cart in the front seat of the Saturn you would realize just how excited I am!
Therapy news: Violet is drinking a few sips from a straw and testing some solids with a spoon or an oral toy we have called a zoli brush. Those are huge milestones for her since she had pretty much quit taking anything orally. She was having a few issues with her belly and her feedings earlier this week after we increased her calories. Still not sure what that was all about or if it is over but today we introduced her formula again at a lower rate and so far so good.
She is starting to sit a little better and we are working on standing with her leg braces. Some moments are better than others. We played a little game of peek – a – boo that slightly helped today.

Now that the seasons have changed I am reminded of the simple things in life that we are to be thankful for. One that strikes me every time I put Violet to sleep is the ability to pull my covers up to my neck and keep warm. Just keep warm in general. Violet has issues keeping her body temperature so at night if the blankets wiggle just enough and she catches a draft she is waking up. Not needing to be up but just cuddled and warm. While looking at her peaceful sleeping face melts my heart I wish I was in my warm bed with my cuddle buddy.

I can never say it enough but we are so blessed to have the wonderful people around us that we do. Thank you all so much.

from Violet

Well, even though yesterday’s news was stressful on mama I feel so much better today. Dr Weddle took my old tubes out of my ears and I can relax and am at peace. I even played in my mats tonight. Mama said I had to play quietly because daddy wasn’t feeling good and he went to bed very early. After playing for a while mom put me in front of the window to look outside. That’s what I miss the most about our new house. I used to look out the patio window all the time. I really like being outside and watching the outdoors. Then after a while of watching the front yard I played in another one of my mats while mom folded some laundry and Grace played with her magnetic dolls. Mom was playing for a while too but she needed to get the laundry folded. Then it was time to eat and put Grace to bed.
Mom was excited and so was the Yvonne from Dr. Weddle’s office because I was in a much better mood today than when they saw me with my favorite audiologist Nicki yesterday. Yesterday I just did NOT feel well at all! But I got good sleep last night–mom did say she gave me something to help me relax and take away my discomfort — I didn’t mind because I just need to sleep to feel good sometimes too!
I know mama is worried about me getting more ear infections without my tubes because I did so well with them. It didn’t matter what season it was I was getting ear infections before I got my tubes. But I am going to try my best and hopefully we will have a healthy winter season!
But I suppose I better get to bed so mama can go too. She is on her own with me tonight since daddy doesn’t feel good. Hopefully he doesn’t share this with me or Grace or mom – mom’s not allowed to get sick! She is TOO busy with work and taking care of me and all my stuff. Especially now that I have therapy weekly!
Have a good night!

This entry was posted on September 27, 2013. 1 Comment

Defeated & frusterated — warming: major venting — i apologize already…i just need this today

So we have been battling a few things with Violet lately.  While she has had a few nights where she has slept all night long I almost feel like this is a curse.  She is not feeling well.  The girls have a cold.  Mine is better, Grace is a little better now it has hit Violet.   I fear the only reason she is sleeping is because she is not feeling well and it’s her bodies way of trying to feel better.  The other more prolonged thing that we have been battling is her ears.  We have been watching her left ear for a while, the tube had moved and it seemed like she was constantly pushing at that hearing aid — now right ear is plugged and the ear tube is falling out.

Tomorrow we will see ENT and probably get the tubes taken out the rest of the way so they stop bugging her.  Then we need to discuss where we go from hear.  I did discover that there is another kind of tube they can put in – this one is supposed to last a little longer.  I knew when we got the tubes there was 1) No guarantee they would work at all 2) They may not last long  -they could fall out at any time.  I know I should just be grateful for how long they lasted and the fact that we haven’t had to deal with any ear infections while we have had them but we are heading into cold & flu season without ear tubes on a child is historically had a ton of infections.

I feel defeated, frustrated & sort of tired of doctors…I know…NO time to get tired of doctors but seriously!  I don’t see this being a good time for ear tubes to not work!  Why is it every time something starts to go right for baby Violet…something else happens?

I just continue to cling onto my verse…He has a plan…a plan greater than all this…but sometimes I just get so annoyed!

I am so tired of people who really don’t have a clue as to what I go through on a daily basis trying to pretend like they care or understand…YOU DON”T HAVE A CLUE!  (Disclaimer: not saying everyone who I encounter I feel this way about – but there are some people I just want to punch in the face – yes…anger stage of grieving) Because right now… I HATE HOLLAND!  My little mystery baby who no one has the answers for anything.  I don’t have the answers.  There was nothing I could do today to console her and those are the days that I hate the most. 

If my day with Violet wasn’t enough then something happened with Grace and she was disappointed with a situation and that breaks my heart too.  It was nothing we could control but still hurts. 

But tomorrow is another day and we will go to bed and wake up when we do and start all over, because that is what we do.  We don’t hold onto the disappointment or frustration…just get up, pick our heads up and move forward.  There is no really reason to hold on to what we can’t control.